Thursday, October 24, 2013

You are NOT the Driver

Last week, during motivation week, I wrote a post around a motivational speech from Eric Thomas "How bad do you want it?" The thing is, although I agree with some of what he said, I don't agree with all of what he said for SEVERAL reasons.

As usual, I was having a chat with my friend Nicole Orisich about it. I told her that I don't believe in "grinding" because it tends to make people believe that the seeds you plant today will sprout tomorrow if you grind hard enough.

Or, in this case, Eric Thomas said that if you don't sleep and don't eat and just pound away at your goals, you will be successful. That may be true, but, you know what else you'll be - SICK! Your body needs rest and food and water just like any other living thing.

Nicole said "Grinding is a man-made action that enhances the illusion that we're in the driver's seat." She wrote a post on her blog a while back about that very thing.

I believe that everything happens when it's supposed to. You can spend 24/7/365 grinding, if that's what you think you should do and if it's not your time, it's just not your time. Now, this doesn't apply to schoolwork and studying, as referenced in Eric Thomas' video. He's right about school, don't quit because it's easiest. Spend more time studying and less time partying. Don't be so concerned about your social agenda that you miss out on your grades. I agree with ALL of that.

But as someone who knows from firsthand experience, you can put in all the work you want for something that you want and if it's not your time to have it, all your work is for nothing.

Take the steps to make sure that you stay prepared, so that when the timing is right, you don't have to get prepared, but as far as grinding is concerned - leave that for the gears.

The truth is, you aren't as in control of things as you'd like to think you are and your constant need to be the bus driver will cause madness, depression and a host of other problems. I don't think it's worth it.